Relationships can be very tricky. Because so many people are afraid of being rejected or abandoned, they are fearful of showing and telling someone how they really feel. One of the scariest parts for people in a new relationship is knowing when is it appropriate to say “I love you” in a relationship. They are afraid to say “I Love You” because they are scared the other person in the relationship does not feel that way yet and they do not want to be left hanging.
Nicest Words to Say to Anyone
Saying I love you is a big deal, but they are really the nicest words that you can say to anyone. Think of how wonderful you feel when someone tells you “I love you” – even if it is your mother or father. Those words, when they come from the heart, can never be heard too often. So, if you feel like you want to tell your partner that you love him or her, then, by all means do it. When you say it, be proud and strong about it. If you just say it in a wimpy voice, you will sound wimpy, like you are fishing for the other person to say it back to you. But, if you say it with strength and truth, it will not matter what the other person says back because he or she will feel so good about hearing it from you.
Do Not Text the First Time You Say It
When you are ready to tell someone that you love him or her, you should say it. It is not as powerful coming from a text message or in an email. When you say it face to face, you get to see the emotions from the other person and that person gets to see your emotions, too. Unfortunately, many people are very afraid of showing their emotions because they feel shameful and scared.
Share Your Emotions with Pride
Your emotions are what they are and there is absolutely no reason to hide them from someone you love, especially if the emotions are loving ones. If saying I love you is a powerful phrase for you and it makes you cry from joy, then so what! Cry from joy, because it will make the moment even more memorable.
Do Not Announce It Over Facebook the First Time
You should not say “I love you” for the first time over Facebook, either. It may seem romantic to announce to the world that you love someone, but it is not personal and it seems quite hokey. It also might make you seem weak, because of the fact that you feel you have to tell the world, you are not strong enough to say in a private and personal place, like face to face. Save Facebook for other things, not for declaring your love.
Maybe Not During the First Date
You should not say I love you the after the first date. Odds are you are not in love, but you are feeling strong physical attraction and maybe even a little lust. Even though it is wonderful to tell someone that you are in love, you should be sure that you know the person for a little while before you make the declaration.
No Set Time Allowance
It would everyone’s life so much easier to say that you should tell your partner “I love you” after seven dates or after three years together, but there just is not a set time for everyone. The best way to judge when it is the best time is when you really feel like it is the best time. You will know in your heart and in your head. But, no matter when you think you are ready to say it, do not expect your partner to say anything. If you expect something, you could be very let down, especially if your declaration comes as a big surprise. Besides, the point of saying I love you to someone is not so they say it back to you, it is to tell that person “I love you.”
Proud and Strong
When you make the decision to say it, say it proudly and with strength. You should also have something else planned to say, just in case there is some awkward silence. Because everyone reacts to that declaration differently, it is a good idea to have the next topic of conversation planned in the back of your mind so you do not have to grasp for ideas in a middle of a potentially awkward moment.
Many people do make their first declaration of love in the heat of a moment, and if you choose to do it spontaneously, that is great, too! Anytime you tell someone, “I love you” they will feel great because they know they are loved.
