Older women can still have very active and healthy sex lives. Often this has to be a mental choice because you will have to change some of the ways you thought about sex in the past. Your interest level in sex might decline and getting ready for sex might take a little more effort than it once did. This is not a sign that you shouldn’t have sex, but rather that you have to change how you choose to think about sex.
Vaginal Dryness, the Lack of Moisture can be Fixed
Moisture is one of the main issues when it comes to menopause and sex. Your body no longer provides the same lubrication it once did. There are a few things you can do naturally to help this along, such as staying fit and exercising but beyond that you are going to have to look into external options. There are a number of gels and creams that can be purchased that will lubricate you for sex. This can get you past the initial moisture problem. There are a few slow release gels so that you are sure to have the moisture keep up with any type of prolonged activity.
Diminished Sexual Appetite
Your hormonal changes tend to drives down your sex drive. You have to realize that this lessened desire level is not really a reflection on how you feel about sex or your desire to be close to your partner, but rather a hormonal, biological effect because you are no longer in a place to “breed.” Sex has developed past that point for many of us and needs to be a part of many healthy marriages, so finding a way to work past the biological “trick” is important. This can mean being more creative or just acknowledging your changed desire level. The truth is, once you start, you will want to finish, your drive to start might be less than it once was.
Body Image Discomfort
As we age, we also become uncomfortable with our body and our body image can become distorted. Exercise and staying fit can help reduce this feeling. You also have to be willing to work past your feelings of sex being a “young” person’s game. This is a mental/psychological viewpoint and you can easily work on changing how you feel about your body and your sexual appetite. Find lingerie and things that hide areas you are uncomfortable with. Work to find positions and lighting options that make you happy overall.
Sex during menopause can be just as fun and fulfilling as sex during any other time in your life. You need to work to keep yourself active. This will help you have the sex life you want no matter what your age and your reproductive status. You don’t have to give up this part of your life just because you are older, you just have to change it up and make it a new experience.
